Let Go Mentally

The mind holds on through beliefs, expectations, and interpretations. It takes a lifetime to build up these conditional responses, but dismantling them occurs moment by moment. The present is the right time to begin. When you find yourself in a situation in which you are certain of disaster, loss, hurt, or any other negative outcome, use the following formulas, as appropriate:

  • This is just an experience. I’m here on earth to have experiences. Nothing is wrong.
  • My higher Self knows what is going on. This situation is for my benefit, even if I can’t see that now.
  • My fears may come true, but the outcome will not destroy me. It may even be good. I’ll wait and see.
  • I’m having a strong reaction now, but it isn’t the real me. It will pass.
  • Whatever I’m afraid of losing is meant to go. I will be better off when new energies come in.
  • Whatever fear says, nothing can destroy me. When people fall they don’t break, they bounce.
  • Change is inevitable. Resisting change doesn’t work.
  • There is something here for me, if I have the awareness to find it.
  • The things I fear the most have already happened.
  • I don’t want to hold on anymore. My purpose is to let go and welcome what is to come.
  • Life is on my side.
  • I am loved; therefore I am safe.

These aren’t just formulations, they are new beliefs that, when sincerely held, call in spirit to aid you. To build a new reality you need new mental structures.


Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1997).


Terry V.
Terry V5 years ago


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Leslie R.
Leslie R5 years ago

Thank you for addressing an importnat point that these statements are for people who don't know real suffering but more for people like me who grew up in a somewhat well-meaning family but nevertheless dysfunctional so I have had to work hard to find the internal security that I did not receive as a child. I sometimes feel selfish for wanting my life to be better when there are so many who have never experienced any kind of love or caring by another but only fear, abuse and cruelty or struggle everyday just to have something to eat. I try to be grateful everyday for the blessings I have been given while working to create a whole person internally. We are truly very fortunate to be able to have the opportunity to benefit from the people like Deepak which hopefully inspires more people to help heal the pain of the less fortunate.

Cheryl I.
Past Member 5 years ago

Thank you.

Anthea B.
anthea brincat5 years ago

"I am loved; therefore I am safe" no one else needs to love you to feel safe, you need to love yourself! and believe in yourself in order to succeed. Don't believe in no god, believe in yourself! you are your own god!

Heidi H.
Past Member 5 years ago


Iron Steel
Iron Steel5 years ago

Prepare oneself to face whatever it is,as it is the things what one deserve.
Everyone on this Universe receive things or happen which is the effects of what he or she has done...

Becky Y.
Rebecca Y5 years ago

I guess I view things from a child's perspective and I have seen many abused children who have more than one personality because of what happened to them and repeating many of these things that Deepak has written would probably keep them in their abusive situation. What kids need to know is that the experience of abuse they are witnessing is not ok, they are not being loved, everything is not ok, everything is wrong, life is not on their side if they don't tell someone and get help. One little girl asked me one time, why did bad things keep happening to her and I said sometimes bad things happen to good people and she should keep remembering that she was a good person despite the bad things that had happened to her. I helped get her out of that situation and not by saying nothing was wrong and it was just an experience and we are here to have experiences! All things must be weighed for what they are, some things are not metaphysical or spiritual; some things are really bad and how we get through them is of the utmost importance, not by burying our heads in the sand or believing everyone has some good in them because some people have no good in them whatsoever!

Geetha Subramaniam

Nice. Except for the last one. "I am loved *and* I am safe" is fine. However, thinking you are loved and "therefore" you are safe is the road to disaster. Many people fall apart and feel insecure when hurt. When in a divorce, most feel unloved and often insecure. And this kind of dependency thought is hardly the thought form that will help them though that period.

And really, why limit yourself. think unlimited. You are safe regardless of being loved.

Aud Nordby
Aud nordby5 years ago