Live Your Own Love Story

It has become a truism that to receive love we must give love. This reciprocal action keeps the flow of love alive. Without it love would stagnate. Learning to give runs contrary to some very deep conditioning that we all carry around inside, however.

We have all learned to hold on to a good thing. Letting go of anything precious is hard. Loving people have taught themselves that holding on is possessiveness. Anyone who has ever been trapped in a possessive relationship knows its smothering effect. It isn’t love when another person cannot give you the space to live your own life.

Giving space isn’t simple. You must be willing to allow another person their whole being. You must give permission for someone elses ideas, feelings, reactions, and will to be expressed freely. People who have taught themselves to give on all levels have discovered a critical ingredient of living their love stories.

Goodness is a quality of being. Once we have made this discovery, we stop measuring people by their achievements. We expect goodness as part of their essence, and of ours. When this happens, we no longer expect a reward for doing good. We no longer bestow love when people are good to us and withdraw it when they are bad.

Instead love becomes a constant in our lives. It just is. People who have reached this stage are in true possession of their love stories.

You will never feel better about yourself by making others look worse. Engaging in the habit of criticism only postpones the day when your own secret judgments come to light. Bringing to light whatever you think is wrong about yourself is the only way to diffuse guilt and shame.

In reality there is nothing wrong with you or anyone else; this is what the voice of love truly says. Inner growth consists of learning to hear this voice and heed it, a process essential to living your own love story.

Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1997).


Elaine A.
Elaine Al Meqdad6 years ago

Loved this article!

Samantha Shira
Samantha Shira6 years ago

thanks for sharing.

Rosie Jolliffe
Rosie Lopez6 years ago

wonderful advice!

Barbara Erdman
Barbara Erdman8 years ago

Thanx, respectfully acknowledged :-)

Janice L.
Janice Lawrence8 years ago

Thanks for the reminder!

Rosi Caswell

As we give, so we receive, but the giving must be unconditional, with no expectation of an immediate return, for the way this Universal principle works, is that as we give so we receive, when we need it!! There are times in our lives when we may go through a long spell of giving, or a long spell of receiving, though there are times when our giving IS reciprocated immediately, or at least quickly. The secret is in not expecting anything back when we give, and that is a precept that we cannot simulate; the unconditional giving, whichever form that may take, must be simply that; unconditional and expecting no return. When we truly live within this space, we will always receive what we need when we need it, without exception!
Rosi Caswell Animal Whisperer, Animal/Human Therapist, Metaphysical Counsellor

Nancy Anderson
Nancy Anderson8 years ago

How wonderful the world would be if we all could all live in this energy of unconditional love.

Loo Samantha
Loo sam8 years ago

thanks for sharing.

Red Velvet Rose
Red Velvet Rose8 years ago


Tori W.
Past Member 8 years ago

so true...letting someone that you "love" go is so difficult...yet can withstand it...if it is love...i've met so many with great wealth, power, position, riches...and the most unhappy individuals i've ever met....the only thing they are missing is real, true, love....and many know even told me it was why they drink so much and do drugs...bad habits...but without real love...i guess some can feel the absence of it...