Making Plans and Going with the Flow

Last week, my fiancť and I drove into San Francisco to enjoy a fireworks display in celebration of the 75th anniversary of the Golden Gate Bridge. We drove around for nearly an hour looking for a parking spot. It was infuriating, and we only saw the last five minutes of the display.

On our way back to the car, however, we stopped into a bar, where we found ourselves enjoying the night out, despite our earlier frustrations. The experience reminded me of the importance of coping with†uncertainty. In the past, I often planned my days meticulously – almost down to the minute. I left no room for spontaneity, and I would feel stressed if my day did not go as planned.

In recent years, however, it has become easier for me to be a bit more flexible. And that has allowed me to be open to experiences and possibilities that I would never have been exposed to if I had been trying to stick to a rigid schedule. Making plans is valuable. Having a schedule allows us to work efficiently and manage our time. But acknowledging that there will always be some degree of uncertainty in life, even when we make careful plans, allows us to keep our minds open to unforeseen opportunities.



Tamara Mendelson
Tamara Mendelson5 years ago

do a cobo of planning of whatever ;)

Duane B.
.5 years ago

Thank you for sharing.

Nimue Pendragon

It's good to learn to relax and be flexible. Some of the most fun things are the ones that are unexpected and pop up out of the blue :)

Jack Grabon
Jack Grabon5 years ago

Agreed. It's also good to plan unplanned things, for example, earmarking a day where you will not plan anything and just go with the flow. Ideally, I think that a balance between planning and not planning is probably best.

Heidi H.
Past Member 5 years ago

Good point.

Danuta Watola
Danuta W5 years ago

Thank you for the interesting post.

Debbie L.
Debbie Lim5 years ago

Having a meticulously planned day is hell, especially if things don't go according to plan. It can actually be worse for you than benefitting you. Huge stress factor!!

Silas Garrett
Silas Garrett5 years ago

Congratulations on that change. It is very important to find balance between planning and spontaneity.

Kirsten B.
Past Member 5 years ago

Good thoughts, thank you.
Plans and schedules are good to give a framework and prevent stagnation (or forgetting things), but leaving lots of room for spontaneity or unforeseen circumstances is essential.

irene fernandez
irene Fernandez5 years ago

Many times those unforseen oportunities are the real jewels we come across.