Recovering From an Affair

There may be no bigger paradigm shift in a long-term relationship than the discovery or disclosure of an affair. Listen as Dr. Tammy Nelson explains the healing and recovery process after infidelity, that has the power to bring love back into focus and redefine the erotic agreements defining your monogamy.  Tammy brings her unique and in depth insights to creating a new level of empathy and connection in your relationships.  As a certified trainer in Imago Therapy, her work with couples brings them the opportunity to give meaning and new intimate connections in their relationship.

Tammy is a Board Certified Sexologist, an AASECT certified Sex Therapist, a Diplomate of the American Board of Sexology, a Licensed Professional Counselor, a Certified Imago Therapist, an Advanced Clinician in Imago Relationship therapy, an Imago workshop presenter, a Licensed Alcohol and Drug Counselor and a Registered Art Therapist.  She is the author of several books including, “Getting the Sex You Want; Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together” as well as “What’s Eating You?  A Workbook for Anorexia and Bulimia.” She has been a featured expert in Glamour Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Mens Health and a source in Time Magazine. Tammy gives workshops and seminars and trains therapists around the world on issues relating to sex and relationships.

Don’t give up on your relationship until after you have listened to this show.  It will surprise you.

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Aud Nordby
Aud nordby4 years ago


Jane Barton
Jane Barton5 years ago

I think the reason people cheat is they get married too young without sampling enough people.
Both men and women should have sex with a lot of people until they find the right fit. Otherwise
they will always "wonder" and when an opportunity arises they will cheat. People who have an
extremely strong bond at the very start will not cheat. But only 1 million out of 310 million people ever find their "soulmate".

Kathy Perez
Kathy Johnson6 years ago

I have been cheated on and after you have been betrayed, the trust is gone. That doubt is always there. My problem is trusting the man I'm with, even though he has done nothing to betray my trust. My ex and my estranged husband both cheated, and it is hard to move on from that

Michele Wilkinson

Personally, I would never be able to trust my partner again if he had cheated. And without trust in a relationship, there is nothing.
I know people say that until one is in that situation, one cannot say definitely how one would react. I'm afraid I DO know how I'd react. I would find it impossible to trust again, forgive, or forget.

Charles Wallace
Charles Wallace6 years ago

Either your word is worth something, or it's not worth anything. If one promises to be faithful, and then breaks that promise, they've shown that their word is worth nothing. Once they've done that, how is their spouse ever supposed to trust them again? I can understand how someone could love their spouse so much that they decide to remain with them after being the victim of an affair. But I can't see how they could ever trust them again. (I can't listen to the show -- it says "file not found".) From my experience, Jerika B is right -- "Once a cheater, always a cheater".

Jenna L.
Jenna L6 years ago

Cheating = DEALBREAKER, period.
Cheating = lying.... I don't know how some couples can get over that.

I didn't and I still haven't.

Tana M.
Tana D6 years ago

Well this is a touchy subject. Everyone is different, so reactions to an affair would be quite varied. Personally, that would result in the end of the relationship. My fiance and I have discussed this, we're both in agreement. I know I'd be able to forgive him one day, but I just could not continue with the relationship, perhaps we could be friends eventually, but nothing more. Cheating for me signifies the loss of respect for your partner and will completely wipe out trust. Without those 2 very important things, you don't have a solid base for your relationship. And I'm not the type of person who gives trust back easily once someone has lost it (same can be said for respect). Even if by some miracle we did stay together it would probably literally take 20 yrs or so for me to almost fully trust him again and even then I'd have doubts and second guess myself. That's not how I'd want to live my life and certainly not the life I'd ever want him to have.

Claire C.
Claire Chambers6 years ago

The worse part for the cheated-on partner is the lying. Being honest and telling your spouse is the very least you can do. i know from first-hand experience.

Jerika B.
Jerika B6 years ago

Once a cheater always a cheater.

Bob P.