Release Your Emotional Pain To Recover

Do not ignore the emotional wounds you sustain in daily life. Do not believe that ignoring emotional pain is a sign of strength. Do not believe that feeling emotional pain is a sign of weakness or psychological frailty. Do not believe that being in touch with your feelings, knowing you hurt, and wishing you didnít diminishes you in any way.

Do not think of yourself as weak when you experience the pain of rejection. Do not consider yourself undesirable when you know the ache of loneliness. Do not punish yourself when you carry the burden of guilt. Do not lose faith in yourself when you encounter the bitter disappointment of failure. Do not lose yourself in the anguish of loss. Do not become crushed within the churning of brooding and rumination. Do not belittle yourself further when your self-esteem is already under assault.

Know that what makes you human is your capacity to feel emotional pain. Know that what makes you wise is your capacity to recognize you are not weak.

Know that what makes you strong is your ability to recover from emotional wounds and to become more resilient by doing so. Know that such wisdom, like all wisdom, must be learned and can be learned.

Know that your brain is wired to experience rejection as physical pain, and that there are ways to ease that pain and revive your self-worth in its aftermath.

Know that loneliness is a trap of self-protective but self-defeating behaviors that can push others away, but that it is one from which you can escape.

Know that you can elicit authentic forgiveness from others, as well as from yourself, and that once you do, your burden of guilt will lift.

Know that failure will cause you to perceive yourself and your goals in distorted ways, and that you must ignore these Ďgutí feelings and focus on the many factors that are in your control….Continue reading at

Guy Winch, Ph.D. is a psychologist, keynote speaker, and author whose books have been translated into thirteen languages.

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Rosemary H.
Rosemary H4 years ago

Anne M, my sympathy! I wish there was more I could say, but your Mom has my very best wishes to start thinking happy thoughts. Dementia is cruel!

Marianne B.
Marianne B4 years ago

great article full of wisdom. life is hard, but harder for some. e.g. when their child has cancer and dies, persons paralized, amputees, the homeless. count your blessings every day.

Anne Moran
Anne M4 years ago

I just spoke to Mom who has dementia, and who cried the whole time we were on the phone...

The emotional pain is almost too much to bear...

No one wants to hear their beloved Mother crying...

I will go ''running'' in the fresh air, to release this emotional pain...

Rosemary H.
Rosemary H4 years ago

Sorry - finale of Sibelius' 2nd Symphony - why can't I see my typos before I post?

Rosemary H.
Rosemary H4 years ago

I was also reminded of this earlier today when Classic FM played the wonderful triumphant finale Sibelius' 2nd symphony, something they normally neglect. When I healed from trauma 15 years ago, I sent them a request - for this piece, although I hardly knew it. It is the most perfect musical description of my healing process, and every time I hear it I rejoice in being free, alive, whole and healed!

Rosemary H.
Rosemary H4 years ago

I returned here because I was sent a green star (though I don't think I'd edited my last sentence to make sense!)

Thanks to Anne M, Lauren W, Kamia T, Natasha S, and Barbara L for their insights. We all face huge battles because society expects us to recover from serious hurt almost overnight, whereas real recovery, from the heart outwards, can take a very long time indeed!

Joanne M.
Joanne M4 years ago

Thanks for the positive thoughts/

Donna Ferguson
Donna F4 years ago

ty--great article

Karen Chestney
Karen Chestney4 years ago

Yup, OK....thanks for sharing.

Borg Drone
Past Member 4 years ago

Its not a good idea for me.