Stop Striving. You Are Already Enough.

Please. I beg of you – STOP.

Stop pulling all-nighters in the quest for the straight A’s that will earn you the title of valedictorian.

Stop pushing yourself so you can make it to nationals and maybe one day win an Olympic gold.

Stop coming in at 6am and staying until 10pm so you’ll get the promotion or close the deal.

Stop trying to outdo last year’s investment earnings.

Stop. Just Stop.

Stop trying to run that marathon faster.

Stop positioning yourself so that exclusive club will let you be a member.

Stop working out seven days a week so you can have ripped abs and cut arms so you can attract that lover you think you don’t deserve.

Stop forcing yourself to drink your daily green juice and cook your healthy organic meals and cut out everything you really love to eat.

For Pete’s sake, stop trying to ditch your bad habit.

Stop hustling so you can grow your mailing list so you can land an agent and score a book deal so you can sell a million books and become a NY Times bestselling author.

Stop networking so you can prove to people that you’re well-connected with influential people who can uplevel your status. And for the love of God, stop name-dropping so everyone will know how far up you are in the pecking order.

Stop. Just F*cking Stop It.

Stop trying to prove something. Stop achieving. Stop caring what everybody else thinks. Stop beating yourself up because you’re not smart enough/ rich enough/ skinny enough/ healthy enough/ loving enough/ famous enough/ talented enough/ [insert your hang up] enough.

Instead, try this.


You’ve done enough. You’ve achieved enough. You’re loved enough. You’re affirmed enough.

You’ve won enough awards. You’ve got enough money.  You are attractive enough. You’re healthy enough. You’ve worked your way up far enough in your business.  You’ve done the best you can.

You are enough.

The Achievement Junkie

Trust me, I’ve learned this the painful way. I was the classic overachieving kid. Straight A’s. Teacher’s pet. Got offered my first book deal at age 11 (I turned it down.)

Editor of the yearbook. Danced in a ballet company. Got into Duke University.

Then I graduated second in my class from medical school. Honor society. Cash awards. Accepted to the best OB/GYN program in the country. Married a doctor. Then a veterinarian. Landed my dream job. Earned big bucks. Was made full partner by the time I was 32. Got divorced again. Married a guy with an MBA from Dartmouth.

I was there – but there wasn’t enough for me.

So I started a professional art career. Got eight galleries to represent my art. Landed my art in museums.Wrote a book about art that allowed me to meet and befriend my art heroes and sheroes. Earned six figures from my painting career.

But it still wasn’t enough.

So I started a blog that quickly grew into a community of souls. I got boatloads of Twitter followersI got on TV. National magazines interviewed me.  I wrote another book and went on a five month book tour. I gave a TEDx talk. I landed a six-figure deal for my third book. I got up on stage with Louise Hay and Wayne Dyer and Kris Carr and more of my heroes and sheroes. I filled a mentoring program with beautiful visionaries who paid me 10 grand a pop to be guided by me. I got invited to give a second TEDx talk

And yet… my Gremlins tell me I’m still not enough.

I need to launch a telesummit or something so I can grow my newsletter list so I can sell more books so I can hit the NY Times bestseller list so I can make Hay House happy so they’ll give me another book deal so I can keep writing…

I need to make sure my next TEDx talk gets even more views than the nearly 90,000 views my first TEDx talk did. I need to wow the audience at the next Hay House conference in New York in November so they’ll want me to speak at more conferences. I need to fill the next round of my mentoring program in January…

And if Mind Over Medicine hits the bestseller lists when it launches in May 2013, then I need to make sure it stays on the list for months and months. And then – oh my – the pressure to write another bestseller, and to sell even more books so I can get invited to even bigger stages, and – oh my – then I’ll need to own a retreat center where visionary healers and those in need of healing can unite, and then…

It Never Ends

I was meeting with my awesome mastermind group a few weeks ago, and I had this epiphany, that I am now in a business where there is no “there.” I mean even Oprah is probably feeling like she’s not “there” because her OWN network hasn’t been the whopping success everyone expected it to be. In his latest PBS special, Wayne Dyer even confessed to feeling disappointed that Eckhart Tolle and the Dalai Lama beat him on a ranking of spiritual leaders. Wayne Dyer isn’t “there” because there IS no THERE, and he’s f*cking Wayne Dyer!

I’m tired of striving. I’m tired of trying to find validation somewhere outside of myself. I’m exhausted from feeling like I have to spend my whole freakin’ life trying to prove something.

What am I trying to prove?

What are YOU trying to prove?




Right here. Right now. Just as we are. Nothing to prove.

Say it with me – I AM ENOUGH.

Feel it. Breathe it in. Believe it. Listen to your Inner Pilot Light and know it. Trust it.

You can stop now. Stop doing anything that doesn’t make your soul dance. Keep your ambition but only because it’s in service to your highest good and your deepest pleasure, not because you need to achieve anything more.

You are a valuable, lovable, precious, perfect being, not because of anything you’ve achieved, but because you have a little spark of divinity in you, and that guarantees that you are enough. Who are we to deny our own divinity?

That’s all. I’ll get off my soap box now.


With a deep sigh,


Lissa Rankin, MD: Creator of the health and wellness communities and, author of Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof You Can Heal Yourself (Hay House, 2013), TEDx speaker, and Health Care Evolutionary. Join her newsletter list for free guidance on healing yourself, and check her out on Twitter and Facebook.



Zee K.
Helen Porter5 years ago

I do not read boring books.

I do not go to flavorless movies.

I have almost finished this life time. I'm an old lady and love it!

I have not led a boring life.

I have savored the cup of life and drained it near to its dregs.

I have laughed. I have cried. I have sinned. I have been called an angel. I have lost and I have won. I've been at the top and I've climbed out of a ditch. I am Scorpio!

I am intense.

I shall enjoy this life 'til the end of it.

When my number is called, I shall greet the angel of death with a kiss. She holds
no fears for me.

I have lived life to the utmost: laughed, screamed, whined, giggled, and loved it all.

And now, with Care2, I get to help save our planet!

I am happy but I am NOT a contented cow.

And I'm going to live it with a passion last,

Jesus and I will enjoya bear hug

Zee K.
Helen Porter5 years ago

I'm sure not going to follow that advice!

Stop seeking.
Stop striving.

Go play with paper dolls in the corner.

I like striving! I love seeking!

Challenges are fun.

I think folks who give such advice need to find a true Guru, maybe in Surat Shabda Yoga, where you can leave these lower worlds, cross the grand divide, and enter the boring!
"heaven worlds" where everything is as you wish it and BORING!!!

Me, I'm going to stick around and enjoy! the laughter, the tears, the problems and helping save Planet Earth. Now, that's interesting!!!

I've been in Nirvana. It's ok for a BRIEF vacation.

When I grow up, I'm going to be a bodhisitva and increase my adventuring!

Patricia H.
Patricia H.5 years ago

great article

Miranda Parkinson

Just enjoy the moment!

Ruth Cunningham
Ruth Cunningham5 years ago

This idea is a complete misconception of our creative-identity; and so long as we see these sorts of ideas as "either-or" choices, we learn nothing about taking responsibility for our lives from the inside out and growing through learning, into more knowledge-full and thereby more creatively balanced human beings. These notions are not either-or choices. There is a way to learn about who we are as both the human selfhood that each of us is and the larger framework of Selfhood into which we are fitted. Life is learning, and certainly following others judgemental ideas has nothing to do with our own learning to become responsible for the "creation" of our active lives... Try for a different view of yourself within the power pattern framework of both the manifest-operational self and the inward psychic-spiritual Self. Growth and learning are about methods of expansion that help us think clearly--to "wonder loudly--question why"...

Leena K.
Leena K5 years ago

Hmm, stop.

Peter Weinelt
Pete Weinelt5 years ago

Good stuff! Thanks Lissa.

Shan D.
Shan D5 years ago

When humans stop striving, their minds and spirits stagnate and they might as well just lie down and die. Sure, lots of people go overboard - but many others thrive on challenge. Who the hell is the author to say what's right and best for anyone other than herself?

John B.
John B5 years ago

Thanks Lissa for this very true reminder.

Emma Rose
Emma Rose5 years ago

I think if you know the boundary and stop LEARN TO BE CONTENT ..BE AT PEACE then you are enough...BUT if you keep going on and on and don't learn to be hapy you will burn out.