Surrender Through Love

Spiritually, no action is more important than surrender. Surrender is the tenderest impulse of the heart, acting out of love to give whatever the beloved wants.

Surrender is being alert to exactly what is happening now, not imposing expectations from the past. Surrender is faith that the power of love can accomplish anything, even when you cannot foresee the outcome of a situation.

But surrendering to another person’s ego, even your beloved’s, is not a spiritual act. At the level of the ego, two people cannot want exactly the same thing all the time. Yet at the level of spirit, they cannot help but want the same thing all the time. Your ego wants material things, predictable conclusions, continuity, security, and the prerogative to be right when others are wrong.

By definition, pursuing these goals shuts out another person unless she falls in line with “my” agenda or he realizes that “I” am the important one around here.

Your spirit is not involved in such concerns. It wants being, love, freedom, and creative opportunities. This is an entirely different level of desire, and when you reach it you can share yourself with another person without conflict. Such sharing is the core of surrender.

The gap between ego and spirit is unavoidable. It would seem impossible to close this gap, since spirit and ego are total opposites. Bringing them together is achieved through surrender, and the only force that can accomplish it is love. Surrender, then, is the next phase on love’s journey, which you enter as soon as you choose to be in relationship.

The path to love uses relationship to move you out of your limited sense of “I,” “me,” “mine” into an expanded identity – this is the growth from the self to the Self.

Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1997).


Fiona T.
Past Member 5 years ago

Under love, there're always winners only

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Ajla C.
Past Member 5 years ago

Odlicni clanci kao i uvijek

federico bortoletto
federico b5 years ago

Grazie per l'articolo.

jayasri amma
jayasri amma6 years ago

Thanx for the article.

Zee Kallah
Past Member 6 years ago

I'm in love with a wonder full God and he's in love with me.

I enjoy telling him, "I can't do this by myself." He loves to hear it. My God wants to share in everything we do. He does not want me off trying to handle rattlesnakes by myself.

The monad (spark of God in me) also has it's own wants and desires. And he's stuck with me. Better we work together to handle life.

Like with my aparment housekeeping inspection today. I did the physical work. He handled the time (There wasn't much to clean up in! lol) He handled the perfectionist manager's image of me which we both projected. My monad did his part and I did mine.

We both win.

Remember, with the God life, there are at least two beings involved. It benefits Him as much as it benefits me. He doesn't like to hear me complaining or worrying or grouching. He wants to have me feeling really good because then he gets the appreciation and love he wants so very much.

So if he keeps me happy, I keep him happy.

I know it sounds strange but that's the way it works.

It's a relationship.

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Tim C6 years ago

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Alicia N.
Alicia N7 years ago

Loved your article, thanks for sharing Deepak.

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ANA MARIJA R7 years ago

Thank You!:)