Take Charge of Your Life

Be a doer, not a watcher. So many temptations lure you into sitting on the sidelines of life, just watching: riveting TV shows and movies, websites, social media. We emerge blinking and wondering where the time went. Turn off the distractions. Map your dream. Take one step toward it every day.

Your time is your most precious asset. Do not give it away carelessly, and donít fritter it away. Learn to say no to requests for your time that donít get you closer to your dream. Donít let time get away from you. Wake up before everyone else and feed your dream first.


Learn to ask for what you want, and not to feel hurt when youíre rejected. ďNoĒ is just the beginning of the conversation. Every successful person has been rejected many times along the way. Keep going. Perseverance is the most important quality that will get you to success.

Never stop educating yourself. Life is a continuing education class, and you have to keep up with the reading. Read, read, read, books that delight and thrill you, books that challenge you, books that infuriate you, books that donít make sense to you. Read across genres. Become the most knowledgeable person in your field. And stay ahead.

Unless you absolutely have to, donít ask successful people for money. Instead, ask them for advice. Find someone who is where you want to be, do your homework about her, make a list of three short questions, and ask her out for coffee to go over your questions.

Learn social skills. Donít be shy when you should be friendly and forthright. Donít be domineering of someone elseís time. Donít get drunk or high in professional situations. Be kind and respectful to everyone. Remember peopleís names, and say them when youíre speaking to them. Listen when others are talking, and reflect back to them what they said so they know you did. Minimize sentences that begin with ďI.Ē†Do random favors for people above and below you on the hierarchy.

Be the hero of your own life, not your own worst enemy. Take care of your health, nurture your family, force yourself to smile and uplift those around you even when you donít feel like it. Have at least one close friend you can gripe to, where you can let off steam. Donít burden everyone with your problems. Elevate them with your joy.

Forgive othersí slights of you. They were probably going through their own battles that you know nothing about. They are just as imperfect as you are. Donít gossip. Itís petty and beneath you.

Live your values. A part of your life should always be devoted to improving your community. Do not make excuses for avoiding this obligation.

Most of all, be positive. You are blessed with life. Be grateful every day. Learn to create your own happiness and how to contribute constantly to the happiness of those around you.

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Lisa Bloom is a†New York Times†bestselling author, award-winning television commentator, and prominent trial attorney. Her most recent book is†Suspicion Nation: The Inside Story of the Trayvon Martin Injustice and Why We Continue to Repeat It.


Panchali Yapa
Panchali Yapa3 years ago

Thank you

Siyus Copetallus
Siyus Copetallus3 years ago

Thank you for sharing.

Yuliya Grishina
Yuliya Grishina3 years ago

Thank you

Julia Oleynik
Julia Oleynik3 years ago

Thank you for sharing:)

Elena Poensgen
Elena Poensgen3 years ago

Thank you

Genoveva M M.
Genoveva M M3 years ago

Thanks, interesting

Brian M.
Past Member 3 years ago

Make today the day that you get off the electronic devices and actually go spend a day out in the world interacting with real people.

Elizabeth Brawn
Elizabeth Brawn3 years ago

i take charge

Maggie Welch
Maggie D3 years ago

Wonderful article, absolutely nailed it! I would add learn how to communicate effectively, don't blame someone else for your problems and don't give away your personal power by saying, "You made me feel (fill in the blank). You're the person who ultimately decides how you are going to feel about what someone says, a situation you're in or how someone sees you. As long as you know who you are and won't allow anyone to undermine that you'll have the tools you need to build a life that is fulfilling.

Nikki Davey
Nikki Davey3 years ago