The Advantages Of Getting Married Later In Life

By Janet Ong Zimmerman for

“Marriage is more than finding the right person. It is being the right person.” —Unknown

I used to wonder if I would ever find true love. When I was in college, I thought I’d be married by the time I was 25. When 27 rolled around, I thought I would get married in my early 30s. Then I thought I’d be married by the time I was 35 years old. In hindsight, it’s easy to see why it took so long for “the one” to find me and me to find “the one.” I wasn’t being the person I needed to be in order to have the love I desired.

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I focused on my career for so long, assuming that my love life would fall into place. When I was in my late 30s, I began to understand that having a successful love life required conscious effort and focus. This was the beginning of many firsts: focusing more on my love life than my professional life, understanding the unhealthy relationship patterns I was repeating, learning to love myself, and accepting my self-worth.

When I reflect back on my life, I realize I wasn’t meant to take the traditional path. Mine was more of a winding path with many forks in the road. Although it hasn’t been as direct as many other people’s paths, it’s been just as rewarding.

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I’m 46 and was married on June 8th, this past summer. One of the benefits of being an older bride is that with age comes a different perspective. I know if I had gotten married at a young age, I would have missed out on becoming my own person. Marrying at a later age has given me the benefit of knowing who I am and experiencing life as my own complete person.

If you’ve experienced many forks in the road, rest assured that these forks are for your greater good. Know that everything is working out in your best interest. Your difficult life and love lessons are opportunities to learn and grow from. Take the time to focus on your love life. Learn to love yourself and know your self-worth.

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Keep walking your path and stay open to what the universe has in store for you. Remain hopeful — believe and know that you will have the love you desire. You’ll find that love will be even better than you expected.

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This article originally appeared on The Benefits Of Getting Married Later In Life.


Melania Padilla
Melania P3 years ago

Great! There is never a "right" time to do it, one should do it because it feels good, not because of the society pressure or whatever...

Daphne H.
Daphne H4 years ago


Chad Anderson
Chad Anderson4 years ago

I have never been married, but my second time living with someone has worked out a lot better the second time around and looks like it is for good. I often wish I had waited but then I would never have learned from my earlier relationship.

Oh Lay Hoon
Oh Hui Xin4 years ago

Well, it really depends on the fate and destiny of two people

John W.
John W4 years ago

As ones own options are limited to to this scenario, it sounds like a consolation prize.

Darren Woolsey
Darren Woolsey4 years ago

You've never too old... :-)

Shawna Sitter
Shawna S4 years ago

There are advantages?? lol. Life is a path of everlasting learning. There is no right. There is no wrong. In love....hope to find the one you're meant to be with and enjoy each and every matter who you are.
Thanks for sharing.

Spirit Spider
Spirit Spider4 years ago

I'm counting on it lol. Although the other day, for the first time, I did wonder if I was doomed to be a spinster. What will be, will be! :-)

James Maynard
James Maynard4 years ago

Everyone must follow their own path, make
their own mistakes and hopefully learn and
love along the way. I married too young,
divorced, then found my love of 26 years
when I was 33. She passed away 2 years
ago and now I am seeing where this new
path will go.

Les M.
Les M4 years ago

I think it comes down to the 2 people. some people grow together, some grow apart. yes, i'm glad that I didn't marry my first "love". I can see it was doomed for failure and I met a great guy right after that and we've been married almost 20 years. but I have a friend that met her boyfriend at 19, only saw him once because he was in the military, they wrote and spoke on the phone and then they married a few months later and that was about 30 years ago.