The Best Way to Respond to Adversity

Adversity happens to all of us. I have learned that you cannot control a lot of things that happen in your life and you cannot control the feelings that come over you. However, you can control what you do with those feelings. Only you control how you let the events in your life affect you, your future and the future of your family.

It is interesting to me that two people can have similar adversity in their lives and yet each will come out of it differently. One may fall apart mentally and emotionally because of the difficult events they experience. The other will use the same difficult events as a learning experience and come out better for it.

We can either allow our circumstances to make us miserable or we can choose to use it to make us strong. Only we can decide which it will be. Other people and other things cannot make this decision for us.

Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, choose to focus on the good things in your life. They are always there. Sometimes you just need to look a little harder. And on the flip side, there are always people that are so much worse off than you are. Truly be thankful for the positive things in your life.

We, especially those living in the US, have the chance to pursue our dreams and make our lives what we want them to be Ė only the sky is the limit.

Close your eyes and think of it this way. If your life could be anything you wanted it to be, realistically, what would that look like? How is it different than the life you have now? What do you need to do differently to make the life you want it to be? Then put a plan in place to make it happen. Remember, it is progress that matters, not perfection. It is OK to cut yourself a little slack….Continue reading at

Nancy Butler is an author and national speaker on performance and success.

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Stanley R.
Stanley R3 years ago

adversity is a challenge for me. For the misfortune to be a negative, we would have learnt nothing. To be a positive, we learn, grow and advance from the event which now becomes a valuable lesson. To experience adversity without resistance is to go with the flow and know there is a plan in place for each of us by the Creator.

da c.
Past Member 3 years ago

"Some people can read War and Peace and come away thinking it's a simple adventure story. Others can read the ingredients on a chewing gum wrapper and unlock the secrets of the universe." -- Lex Luthor (Superman - 1978).

Kath P.
Kath P3 years ago

Genetics play a big part in mental health. With that said even those who are 'able to cope' need to unload sometimes. EFT is a wonderful tool for just that.

Loretta Pienaar
Loretta P3 years ago

I agree 100% with you, Genoveva M M!!! One has to walk a mile in another's shoes and then a mile will never be enough for some who know nothing!!! AND I agree 100& with you too, ScoTT S... with both your posts.

tanzy t.
tanzy t3 years ago

Makes me think what am doing that makes people attack. Then try to think what could be going wrong in their lives to make them do so. Helps me not be so hurt.

Genoveva M M.
Genoveva M3 years ago

All sounds good and easy, what makes me think that who ever came up with these easy solutions to advercity it really doesn't have any idea what "Advercity" means. There are life events that will mark you for life, not because you want it to be that way or don't know how to control the emotions, but because it simply imposible and because you are human, not a robot with a program.

Alexandra G.
Alexandra G3 years ago


june t.
reft h3 years ago

"We, especially those living in the US, have the chance to pursue our dreams and make our lives what we want them to be – only the sky is the limit."

Let's add - "just smile and put on a happy face" lol! And I want to become a ballerina and marry George Clooney! George would be thrilled to bits if I tried to make life what I want it to be.

Anne K.
Anne K3 years ago

Thank you!

ScoTT S.
ScoTT S3 years ago

Also, I do not agree with this author. There are really no negative emotions. Anger channeled properly can be a great motivator. And please explain how the waitress who is earning less than minimum wage (because her employer can legally pay her less than minimum wage) has the chance to live her dreams and put a plan in place?