The Mystery of Love

When two people fall in love, the existence of the mystery is obvious; it all but blinds them. They feel merged and perfected in their state of rapture, but when romance fades, this certainty fades with it. So it takes commitment to keep alive those first glimpses of a fulfillment that lies beyond yourself, yet is nothing but yourself.

When you commit to the path, you also surrender to it. Every day you ask, “What can love do? Show me. I am ready.” The answers will surprise you. Love can solve problems, heal wounds, settle disputes, and bring unexpected answers. Here we aren’t talking about personal love, the feeling contained inside a single person. This is a love beyond the personal that watches and knows everything. When you give yourself to it, family concerns all fall into place.

An invisible power reconciles opposites; it creates harmony of its own accord. To experience such a state, you cannot work for it or try to control it. You allow yourself to be in a state of openness. You witness what is going on; you hang loose; you obey when the right impulse takes hold. This is how life is lived spontaneously.

Whatever happens next is the right thing. Whatever you need at the deepest level is automatically given. It is possible to exist in such a state, although few people do. In fact, it is the most natural way to live. But if you judge your life, if you hold on to being right, if you insist on setting boundaries, then the mystery cannot reach you.

Living in harmony with the mystery takes some time. Surrender, like everything else, is a process, not a leap. Despite ups and downs, the path always goes forward, and every step is a step of love. Ultimately that is the reason for relationships, to be able to look into someone else’s eyes and share the knowledge that the power of love has blessed you both.

Adapted from The Ultimate Happiness Prescription, by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2009).


Eli Is Here
.7 years ago

Wonderful article. Thank you Deepak!!

dve d.
aa b7 years ago

what did the beatles sing all you need is love

Marianne Good
Past Member 7 years ago

Interesting reading!

Beng Kiat Low
low beng kiat7 years ago

Metta Bhavana is a Pali word meaning meditation of loving kindness. The Buddha taught this meditation in Metta Sutta to 500 monks to cure them of their ailments and to protect them from evil spirits.

Metta Bhavana is also practised to purify our mind of defilements like anger, jealousy, hatred and self-pity. We cannot stop the suffering of the world. We can only stop it in our mind, because we know our minds and we generate anger, hatred, and jealousy in our own mind. The only way we can still our minds is by practising Metta Bhavna.

Buddha said that "Hatred cannot coexist with loving-kindness, and dissipates if supplanted with thoughts based on loving-kindness.” Throughout the world, beings suffer. Not only humans but plants, insects, animals, even the earth herself.

Stated simply, Metta is the wish that all beings (regardless of social, religious, racial, political, and economic status) have welfare and happiness. Developing Metta through loving-kindness meditation can make it easier to replace feelings of bitterness, resentment, and animosity with more positive feelings of benevolence,compassion,sympathy, and love. Sounds good, right? And it is.

Mettā - Wikipediaā

The Chant of Metta
Imee Ooi - The Chant Of Metta - English subtitled version

Beng Kiat Low
low beng kiat7 years ago

May I be free from suffering.
May I be happy.
May I experience ease and contentment.
May I be filled with loving kindness.
May you be free from suffering.
May you be happy and well.
May you be peaceful and at ease
May you be filled with loving kindness
May you love and be loved.
May you find the healing that you seek.
May you find peace.
May all human beings be free from suffering.
May all human beings be filled with loving kindness.
May all beings everywhere be free of suffering.
May all beings be happy.
May all love and be loved.
May all find the healing that they seek.
May all beings everywhere find perfect peace.

Metta - Unconditional Ultimate Loving Kindness
Metta Bhavna ( Loving Kindness Meditation)

Dr Kathi A.
Dr Kathi A7 years ago

Love puts the other person before the self. When one GIVES & the other receives, at some point, it MUST end. Otherwise, it will destroy the GIVER while the TAKER uses them all up. MUST go both ways, or it is not love on the part of both. LOVE is NOT just WORDS, it is seen in our ACTIONS.

When love is only in word & NOT in deed, it is a selfish person taking from the other. LOVE can be seen in action, without ever saying a word.

Barbara Liarou
Barbara Liarou7 years ago

Love is a spring in our lives

Jewels S.
Jewels S7 years ago

Peace, love and hugs. I used to love easier. Thank you for the reminder to stop trying to control and protect myself. Believe and have faith again.

Sexy T.
Sexy Teoh7 years ago

We really need true LOVE in this world. Thank you.

Amelia Petre
Amelia P7 years ago

Whether you know it or not "Love is blind"

Amelia Petre