The Secret to Peace

Acceptance is the key to change, and the key to peace.

“On the other side of acceptance is where peace exists, where the solutions are,” says Ariane de Bonvoisin, author of The First 30 Days: Your Guide to Making Any Change Easier, quoted in the August 2009 Guideposts.

In 27 years of counseling, I have found that what Ms. De Bonvoisin says is always true. Always. No exceptions.

Do you believe me?

The opposite of acceptance is resistance, and strangely, resistance is what magnetizes to us exactly what we don’t want. In facing whatever we don’t want, and accepting it as it is, we are then able to reach peace around whatever the ‘it’ is.

Try this scenario: You really dislike your current job. Really dislike it. You want to quit, but for various reasons, you can’t. Rather than continue to resist the job, begin to find things you can appreciate (and therefore accept) about it. I’ve seen it work over and over again. When acceptance comes, change can happen.

Think of the thing you most resist in your current life. It could be a relationship, a task, an assignment, anything. Notice your own resistance to it. Begin to switch your resistance to appreciation, and you will find yourself living into acceptance of what is. Once you accept what is, it’s pretty easy to change it.

One of the things that never ceases to amaze me is that we actually resist peace on this planet. We make peace a when/then possibility. When I lose 15 pounds, then I’ll be at peace. Why not be at peace with the 15 pounds, and let them melt away?

When there’s a Republican/Democrat in the White House, then I’ll be at peace. Why?

When I’m out of debt, then I’ll be at peace. Why? Why wait to be at peace? What do you get from waiting, from postponing peace? I don’t think we get any benefit from it.

Like the gift of the present moment, peace can only exist in this moment–now. And then the next now. Delaying it doesn’t help anyone.

Try acceptance if you want peace.

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By Susan Corso, Ode Magazine


Duane B.
.6 years ago

Thank you for sharing.

Emerald Jordan
Emerald Jordan7 years ago

Somehow, I believe there is a fine line between the act of accepting and the act of embracing. Although the line is fine, it is very crucial. Acceptance to me means to see things as they are...without judgement. Embrace means to agree, and become interwoven. it is my persuasion that many are confusing these two very important elements when it comes to reaching a peaceful state. There are many things that I accept but do not embrace and have great peace, especially when I come face to face with my human limitations

Susan S.
Paul Stephan7 years ago

So simple. So hard.

April Gray
April Gray8 years ago

there are a good many things in life you cannot change, & you can worry & fret about them or you can accept them, move on, & enjoy life. i know which i'd rather do :)

K s Goh
KS Goh8 years ago

Thanks for the article.

John Norman Dela Cruz
John Dela Cruz8 years ago

Accepting what happens in our lives is good. It when we try to refuse or go around to to find goodness that we fail. Once we give in to the meanderings of acceptance, change will come and our lives, choices or whatever, decisions will and may take place.

Maria W.
Past Member 8 years ago

Great article...

Tanik Tri R
Tanik Tr9 years ago

This article is great.. Thanks Megan for sharing..

Tanik Tri R
Tanik Tr9 years ago

This article is great.. Thanks Megan for sharing..