What’s On Your Stop-Doing List?

Twice in 24 hours, I came across this question. I read Chris Guillebeauís fabulous book The Art of Non-Conformity, then I dove right into Danielle LaPorteís The Fire-Starter Sessions e-course. Both asked of me what I wanted to take off my plate.

Given that Iím looking forward to 2011 and realizing that I have some choices to make about how to expend my energy, this twice-in-24-hours serendipity seems like a giant bonk on the noggin from the Universe. Yes, Universe, Iím listening. 2010 has been busy- exceedingly busy. Iíve birthed two books, an integrative medicine practice, a new website, a magazine column, a 20 city book tour, a touring art project, and countless other creations. 2010 was a year of YES. I followed the motto ďJust say YES,Ē and magical things happened because of that. I ventured down dark, overgrown paths with no road map; I said yes to people I didnít know who wanted to meet me; I said yes to experiencing Mama Genaís School of Womanly Arts and Sheila Kelleyís S Factor retreat and countless other transformative experiences.

But I canít keep saying yes forever. Looking forward to 2011, I long for space — clear space, open space, creative nothingness. When I have space, my creativity flourishes. The Universe speaks to me and channels all kinds of juicy stuff through me. Things flow with ease. But when Iím busy all the time, everything gets all muddled.

Which means something’s gotta give. What will it be?

Danielle LaPorte suggests thinking of the tasks that call upon your time and energy and asking yourself these three questions:

1) What are you deeply passionate about?

2) What are you are genetically encoded for ó what activities do you feel just “made to do”?

3) What makes economic sense ó what can you make a living at?

If you canít say yes to at least two of these questions when you think about what youíre doing, consider slapping it onto your stop-doing list.

Here are some preliminary thoughts of whatís going on mine (although Iím still pondering, so donít hold me to this).

My Stop-Doing List

1.†††† Conference calls. I have too many of them. They fill up my day and steal my creative time. I want out.

2.†††† Reading emails that are not addressed to me but Iím ccíed on.

3.†††† Doing public speaking events without getting paid (unless it juices me up to do so).

4.†††† Meeting up with people I donít know who want to meet me. I donít want to be rude, but I barely have time for the people I love the most, and as awesome as these people are, they fill up my day.

5.†††† Leaving Twitter, Facebook, and Gmail open on my desktop. (I stole that one from Danielle). When Iím creating, Iím going to just turn them off.

So those are a few. Not one of those things lights me up, connects me with my passion, takes advantage of my natural gifts, or makes economic sense.

What Do You DO With Your Stop-Doing List?

Sure, it seems all well and good to list the things you donít want to do. Iím blessed that my Stop-Doing List is relatively short because I stopped doing the things I truly hated four years ago, and my hubby has picked up a lot of the slack of the mundane details in our lives. (Chances are good that his Stop-Doing List would be VERY long because of me.) So I hear you. After all, who wants to do laundry or act like a taxi service for your four kids or make Costco runs or manage other tedious details? But what if those things need doing? Who is going to do them if everyone stops doing what they donít love to do?

Iím not suggesting that you must instantly quit doing everything on your list. But adding these things to your Stop-Doing List is a form of intention-setting. When you set the intention that something will change, things happen. Your cells shift. Your DNA realigns. The Universe listens. And magic happens.

Whatís On YOUR Stop-Doing List?

Think through your day. Write down what fills up your time? What do you wish to let go of so you can open up more white space in your life? Donít judge what comes up. And donít worry about the ďhow.Ē Just write it down. Let us bear witness to your list. Tell us here.

PS. I actually wrote this post about a month ago (and just got around to putting it up today). Rereading it, I realize that this question posed by Chris and Danielle must have triggered something BIG in me, because, since writing this post, I’ve decided to stop doing medicine, which is a HUGE deal for me. I spent 12 year and hundreds of thousands of dollars learning how to start doing medicine, but it’s always been a bit of a misfit for me. Since I decided to stop doing medicine, I feel more liberated than I’ve ever felt in my life. I feel free. So don’t be afraid of what comes up for you when you think about what you’d like to stop doing. Think of it as loosening your chains.


garima a.
garima a.7 years ago

true....mines already getting long in my head long

Walter G.
Walter G7 years ago

I happened to show this piece to a friend of mine, who promptly typed in "masturbation," then paused, scratched his head and back-spaced over it. first he copied the word, then cut it, pasted it back, cut it, pasted . . . after about 30 repeats of this, I asked what he thought he was doing. He replied he couldn't give up what he had just discovered he could do using a keyboard. When I left he had a crowd of people from the retirement home he lives in all crowding around suggesting all sort of words to substitute.

Victoria S.
Victoria S7 years ago

Stop doing list an unusual take on things, but interresting approach

Roxana C.
Roxana Cortijo7 years ago

This is new perspective. Thanks.

Mit W.
Mit Wes7 years ago

My stop doing list?

Reading Deepok Chopra articles. (But the hilarity keeps pulling me back !)

Barbara Erdman
Barbara Erdman7 years ago

Thanx for sharing

Lois K.
Lois K7 years ago

I'm going to stop forgetting things!!

But then I forgot what I was supposed to remember not to forget. :o]

Loo Samantha
Loo sam7 years ago

thanks for sharing.

Sheila N.
sheila s7 years ago

I'm going to do less of what I'm "supposed" to do and do much more of what I want to do. If I want to eat three oranges for dinner instead of a "balanced meal" then that's what I'm going to do. If I don't want to talk to family members who frickin' stress me out then I'm not going to talk to them. If I want to stay up until 3 a.m. reading Harry Potter for the fourth time then that's what I'm going to do.

Scherry D.
Scherry D7 years ago

Stop spending more than 1 hr on the internet... yes, that means limiting my time on care2.com, Facebook, Fat Wallet. I downloaded a countdown timer that I set to 1 hr... now I just have to walk away when it goes off!