When In Doubt

Itís hard to let go when you donít know if you have made the right choice in the first place. Doubt lingers and ties us to the past. Many relationships end in divorce because of a lack of commitment, but that lack didnít grow over time; it was present from the very outset and was never resolved.

Itís important not to make critical decisions when you are in doubt. The universe supports actions once they are begun, which is the same as saying that once you take a direction, you are setting a mechanism in motion that is very hard to reverse.

Can a married woman feel unmarried simply because she wants to? Can you feel that you arenít your parentsí child simply because you think it would be better to have different parents? In both cases the ties to a situation, once it is in place, are strong. When you are in doubt, however, you put the universe on hold for a while. It favors no particular direction.

There is a good aspect to this pause and a bad one. The good aspect is that you are giving yourself room to become aware of more things, and with more awareness, the future can bring you new reasons to act one way or the other. The bad aspect is that inertia isnít productive Ė without choices you cannot grow and evolve.

If doubts persist, you have to break out of stasis. Most people do this by plugging into the next choice, catching life on the rebound: ďThis didnít work out, so I better do something else, no matter what.Ē

Doubt is destructive to the one quality that awareness is trying to bring to you: knowingness. At a deep level, you are the knower of reality. Doubt is a symptom indicating that you arenít in contact with the knower inside.

There is no formula for removing doubts because finding the knower inside is personal. You have to be committed to expanding your awareness. Donít be in doubt about that one thing. If you turn inward and follow the path that leads to your inner intelligence, the knower will be there waiting for you.

Adapted from The Book of Secrets, by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2004).


Loo Samantha
Loo sam4 years ago


Terry Vanderbush
Terry V5 years ago

thank you

Heidi R.
Past Member 5 years ago

Reality is extremely subjective. You and I both look at the same scene but I see a completely different picture. Two people may be 'legally' married but if one doesn't feel married then the law binding them is meaningless. Your example of a child feeling their parents aren't their own may in fact be true (for many reasons). Even our solid objects are nothing more than time bound structures of molecules.

If we all viewed 'reality' as a constant, we would go no where in imagination, civil liberties or advancement.

Jon Hoy
Jonjon Hoy6 years ago

When in doubt, try God. You'll find your answer.

Jon Hoy
Jonjon Hoy6 years ago

Woo Hoo. Like I've always learned, it's best to remain silent than to remove all doubt.

Robert O.
Robert O7 years ago

Thanks. When in doubt, think it out. The answers come more easily after reflection and contemplation.

Kanta Of Kol
Kay Bee7 years ago

Nice articel. Thanks

Janice L.
Janice Lawrence7 years ago

So many of us aren't in contact with the knower---and sometimes it takes courage to confront that kind of thing.

Jewels S.
Jewels S7 years ago

When I am at a crossroads and am churning up with the "what ifs" I usually ask God to make this decision for me. I had forgotten that for a while so thank you for getting me to remember the answer I already knew.

Kathryn Queen
Sally T7 years ago

I'm in doubt. I'd like to know why my mother AND my sister in law treated me like sh*t today for absolutely no known reason. Im in doubt because Im fed up of being spoken to rudely, made 2feel inferior because big wig there is massively better off than me and thinks it's a 'sociable' thing to do to turn up with a £50 bunch of flowers for MY mother whom she's obviously planning to inherit as much as humanly possible from just because hers is dead. Im in doubt as to whether to give in to my increasingly deeply burning resentments and the desire to throw an axe at both their heads after which I wont have to worry about how discreetly I ask said sister-in-law "Would the twins be allowed to have these chocolate bunnies" as I try to hand them to her quietly so as not to cause *offence* to the rampaging up her own arse POWER FREAK colon cancer specialist - whilst being verbally bullied in public for even daring to buy my own nieces a wee treat - having missed seeing them because my own mother is such a bitch that she couldnt pick up the phone and warn me that they'd gone round to her place an hour and a half earlier than expected and that if I wanted to see them for the first time in 10weeks I should set off now. I'm in doubt.
Why is a nice person like me putting up with this *incessant* intolerable patronising bullying cr*p from my own relatives??

NO-ONE else treats me like this. Even complete strangers are nicer to me than my own relatives. Anyone got a suggestion?