Who is Your Mentor?

If you could find a mentor who begins to take back all the judgments that have weighed down your life, whose wisdom creates a sense of being loved and nurtured so that the loneliness of your inner world begins to soften, who would that be? Find out with this guided meditation:

Settle yourself somewhere comfortable.
You have entered a dark cave to find a perfect mentor, who is waiting for you at the end of a tunnel.

You begin to walk toward him/her, feeling calm and expectantóthe cave is warm and safe.

As you get near the end of the tunnel a room opens up, and you see your mentor with his/her back to you. He/she slowly turns aroundóthis is the point at which you are supposed to realize who, of everyone you have ever met, will be facing you.

Whoever it turns out to be, whether itís your grandfather, a former teacher or a person you donít know, you would expect certain qualities in your mentor:

  • A mentor should know who you are and what your aspirations are. (Understanding.)
  • A mentor should accept your faults. (Tolerant.)
  • When you bring up things that you have never told anyone because they make you feel guilty and ashamed, a mentor should absolve that guilt. (Forgiving.)
  • Wise as he/she is, a mentor should not interfere in your decisions or brand them wrong. (Non-judgmental.)
  • A mentor should be able to understand a whole range of human nature. (Inclusive.)
  • You should feel safe with your mentor and bonded with him/her in intimacy. (Accepting.)

Adapted from The Way of the Wizard by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 1995).


Duane B.
.4 years ago

Thank you for sharing.

Dale Overall

There are often many to choose from if one is fortunate enough in life to have met these special people who go out of their way to draw out and find your talents, showing understanding and encouragement along the way. Mentors help while sometimes others will laugh, bully, ridicule or simply not encourage you, especially when young.

Yes, Darlene H.L., I agree with Joan Q. You need others to talk to and work through your grief. My mom died of cancer much younger than she should have and I still miss her very much but 11 years is a long time not to be happy after a loss. There are many groups involved in the grieving process, even with losses that are not recent, or a grief councillor. You need not go through life sad and unhappy, depression can occur after a loss so tragic. Remember your Mama would not want to see you so unhappy after all these years.

While a cat or dog can be a loving mentor, especially during a joyless childhood for some, it seems some have a lot of anger issues or tragedies where all other people are seen as an enemy or out to get something for themselves. It is sad if one has never had a mentor in one's life.

Janice P.
Janice P5 years ago

I will give this a try and see who or what is my mentor.

Darlene Hobson
Darlene Hobson5 years ago

Thank You all for your kind words and caring!
My Mama passed one and a half years ago, not eleven. I know it looked like that. It was November 24,2010.
I don't want to be sad. I'm very lucky to have had unconditional love my whole life. Not everyone is that lucky! Maybe that's why I can't seem to let go. I should have been there when she passed but I had a migraine. I wish so much I had been there to help her start her journey!

joanna e.
joanna e5 years ago

I was so lucky; my mentor was my father..As a child he led us through the great depression. He always treated me like the lady I would turn out to be. I was able to be unfearful and always looked forward to the future. My father was not totally nonjudgmental and the way he let you know you were doing wrong was to withdraw his love and attention. That would do it.
Being able to face the future with spirit, love and grace is what it takes to remain a real human being. Over the years when I get in doubt I just think of my Dad.

Atocha B.
Mary F5 years ago

I believe you can have different mentors at different stages of your life. My mentors have all been male.

Fiona T.
Fiona T.5 years ago

Jane b I really seriously consider you to be the most negative person I've ever come across

Sue Matheson
Sue M5 years ago


Joan Q.
Joan Q5 years ago

Darlene H.L I understand and sympathize. Losing my mom was hard too and that was more than 20 yrs. ago. Go ahead and grieve, but pls. find SOME way to move ahead even if it means you have to go to "grief counseling" (it works, by the way). Best of luck to you.

Darlene Hobson
Darlene Hobson5 years ago

My MENTOR is my MAMA!!! I lost her 11/2 years ago and I'm pretty much lost. She is my everything. She was always there, I could talk to her about anything anytime. She was my BEST FRIEND, CONFIDANT, SHOPPING PARTNER, TEACHER,and so much more. Most of all she is my MAMA!!!
I miss her so much and even though I know she would want me me to go on and be happy I just can't seem to.