Why Do Little Girls Skip?

The other morning we were going to the gym when we passed a little girl holding hands with her mother. The girl was happily skipping along. It immediately made Deb ask: Why do little girls skip? And why do little boys run when they can walk?

Obviously, it’s because these are expressions of happiness. But it made us stop and think about how we express our happiness once we get to be adults.

Deb: The little girl skipping made me remember that when I was little I used to sing to myself. No particular tune or song, but I would often find myself humming or singing without even realizing I was doing it. Ed says I still do that. The interesting thing is that, even though I didn’t have the happiest of childhoods—mother divorced father for cruelty, I was in boarding school from age eight, and so on—there was a happiness inside me that was all mine, untouched by drama or trauma.

Ed: I used to dance with my sister and brother; we had a whole routine the three of us would do together. I come from a one-bedroom apartment in the Bronx with a stepmother who made life difficult, but I was always able to find a place to dance. When I danced I was at my happiest, it took me out of my daily reality and was the way I could really express myself. I was even a dancing teenager on television and won the NYC dance championships!

“Happiness cannot come from without. It must come from within.” –Helen Keller

It would seem that regardless of emotional and physical hardships there is a place inside each of us that is essentially happy and free—but we have a tendency to ignore this place, to deny our happiness, or to think that being happy is dependent on circumstances or fortune.

One night we were walking through Pondicherry, a city in southern India, stepping carefully to avoid rats and dog pooh, when we saw two boys preparing for bed, which was on the hard concrete of the sidewalk. What really struck us was, in spite of their clear hardships, they were laughing loudly and happily. Having more is not always better, especially when your happiness is greater than your material wealth.

In the West we correlate happiness with economic prosperity. But in Bhutan, a small but beautiful country in the Himalayas squeezed between northern India and China, they determine their country’s wealth by the quantity of Gross National Happiness (or GNH). People’s level of happiness serves as a vision for the economic and development plans of the country.

Bhutan is not a materially rich country and life for most people is hard—there were no roads before 1960, they till the high mountain fields with oxen, and certainly most do not have central heating or air conditioning. But their happiness is that deep sense of appreciation and inner contentment. This is seen in their sense of community and caring for one another, and their radiant smiles.

“Gratefulness is the key to a happy life that we hold in our hands, because if we are not grateful, then no matter how much we have we will not be happy—because we will always want to have something else or something more.” –Brother David Steindl-Rast

Given the current economic difficulties many of us are now facing, perhaps this is the perfect time to reassess what gives us happiness and how we express it—to reconnect with the inner joy that made us either skip or run when we were younger—for it is easy to forget to be happy.

“The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.” –M. Scott Peck

How do you express your happiness? Do write a comment below.



Arlene M. Baladi

Any form of movement...skipping, dance, etc. can be construed as a sign of happiness!

J.L. A.
j A5 years ago

good reminders...I've also seen little boys skip--does it mean they get discouraged from doing so and separated from that joy sooner than girls in western society?

Rona S.
Rona S5 years ago

Boys skip too! And girls run...The balance is probably cultural, I'd say. I remember practising skipping as a kid, trying different styles.

Terry Vanderbush
Terry V5 years ago


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colleen p.
colleen p6 years ago

because the TV tells them that is what little girls should do for fun. they really don't like it. culture brainwashes them.

Mandi A.
Amanda A6 years ago


Lara Kinast
Lara Kinast6 years ago

I express my happiness by hanging out with my pets and being silly/goofy and laughing.

Sarah Metcalf
Sarah M6 years ago


Kirsten B.
Past Member 6 years ago

Great reminder.

It struck me as very strange that I had to learn to reconnect with my inner happiness, and that it so often seems to be frowned on for being done. But life is SO much better when you are in touch and truly feeling rather than being on efficient, no frills autopilot.

My mouth tends to turn up, I breath deeper, get a bounce in my step - or sing or hum and occasionally dance. When I get a moment of deep happiness, especially outside, I get an overwhelming urge to do an airplane. ;) I sometimes give in to it too. ;)

Jessica J.
Jessica J6 years ago

I caught that smile as you turned away
It wasn't hard to identify
I caught you laughing at the world with me
(welcome to the club)

a poem I remember from years ago, I don't know where from ;-)