Why Does Falling in Love Feel so Good?

If you’re convinced that science only confirms the obvious, we’ve got some mind-boggling news for you. According to research conducted by Dr. Stephanie Ortigue, a professor at Syracuse University, love can actually occur at first sight — and it happens within a fifth of a second.

Ortigue explains that romantic feelings originate not in the heart, but in the brain, which reacts to romance as if it were influenced by cocaine. When you fall in love, twelve areas of the brain sync up to release “happy” chemicals like oxytocin, dopamine and adrenaline.

Like a love potion concocted by the brain itself, these chemicals induce feelings of euphoria in the brain’s cognitive centers that manage metaphors, language comprehension, visual processing and body image. The whole process occurs faster than you can even blink.

To study what happens to people when they fall in love, Ortigue measured electrical activity among the brain cells of people who were shown the names and photographs of those they claimed to love passionately.

After seeing the pictures, the men and women’s brains exhibited rapid activity in the areas associated with rewards, euphoria and drug use.

Although we aren’t surprised at how the brain reacts to romance, the notion of instantaneous love is perplexing. For every person we’ve crushed on instantly, there’s been another who had to work pretty darn hard and for a pretty long time to win us over.

What about people who started out as platonic buddies? What about people we meet online? The process of falling in love with someone you meet on a dating site often unfolds over long periods of time, as it’s difficult to gauge physical attraction before you meet in person.

Maybe the line between love at first sight and the love that grows over time lies at the point of realization. Sure, there are some people we learned to love, but realizing we were attracted to them felt like an epiphany. The passion might have arrived long after the second we met, but the euphoria was just as striking.

Whatever the case, Ortigue’s findings present major implications for heartbreak and mental health. Love may occur at first sight, but it takes ages to get over. 

By knowing how the brain handles love, counselors and psychologists are better equipped to help clients understand their reactions to heartbreak. Her research may also contribute to new therapies for dealing with lost love.

Let’s just hope those techniques don’t veer into Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind territory.

Written by Denise Ngo. Reposted with permission from YourTango.

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Danii P
Past Member about a year ago

Thanks for sharing

Christine D
Christine Dabout a year ago

Those emotions are wonderful and hypnotic but realize that there is a lot more to discover about that person before making it a long-term relationship.

Elisa F.
Elisa F2 years ago

Being in LOVE is the BEST :)

Siyus Copetallus
Siyus Copetallus2 years ago

Thank you for sharing.

Colleen Prinssen
Colleen Prinssen3 years ago

i might be demi romantic. this triggers me. I want to punch someone in the face, and then get my jollies off at the tears of a tween who broke up with their 49th "one and only"

Jim Ven
Jim Ven3 years ago

thanks for the article.

Trish Kendall
Trish K3 years ago

Love is a Major Drug

Nimue Pendragon

Oxytocin and dopamine, yeah :)

mrs m.
Linda M3 years ago

It is possible such feelings remain, even decades later. ;-)

Diane Wayne
Past Member 3 years ago

interesting,thank you.